Creating Sisterhood
Has there ever been a time in your life when you felt confused, alone, and at a complete loss about what comes next? Sometimes we have to take it upon ourselves to reach out and create a community around us to learn, heal, and grow.
We all need to talk more about how essential it is for women to come together in order to heal and empower each other . Women often feel unworthy, and it is easier to let go of that negative belief and feeling, when you are surrounded with the support and love from women who know how it feels and have most probably been in your shoes.
As a society, we have become more individualistic and are losing that great sense of community. Many women are lonely and struggling on their own or living in unhappy homes. They are rarely taught how to build positive, meaningful relationships or how to trust others. Even years after marriage and children, unhappiness can still cling on…deep-rooted with no plans to bugger off any time soon. That trauma takes years of healing and growth, but it is always possible to emerge from it and live a wholesome life. Never give up is my motto, because you never know what’s waiting for you around the corner.
But how do we heal?
I believe it is possible to switch from feeling lost and like you’ve lost your MOJO, to finding a happy and fulfilling life. When I hear women say, ‘I was selfish, and I did something for myself’, I want to jump up and shout, ‘yes, yes, yes’. Finally, we are all saying this more and understanding that ‘selfish’ can be a good thing, and it’s ok…genuinely ok. I remember how hard it was for me to drop the guilt of putting my needs first sometimes and treat myself to something, no matter how small. It started with the smallest step which was to buy a whole years subscription to my favorite psychology magazine! I mean here I was paying for a small pleasure that still kept me at home with my children and taught me how to manage life better, which is beneficial to everyone, but it still felt like a guilty pleasure back then.
This generation is building deeper relationships and connections – tribes and sisterhoods. These empowering communities are popping up everywhere around the globe; they are a sacred space for women to come together and talk about their struggles, feelings of not being worthy, and desire to reclaim themselves again. I am part of one which has changed me and helped me grow. I am a different version of myself now, and others are joining me on this journey.
Is it too late to start again?
Patterns of change and growth resonate with many and inspire them with encouragement and hope. Women around the globe have stories of past traumas and grief and are finally being guided to a brighter future. It doesn’t matter whether you are 18 or 80; it is never too late to start a new chapter in your life. I harp on about that more than anything. My life definitely got more exciting after 40 because I knew what I really wanted instead of what I thought I wanted or others wanted for me. We should be our own cheerleaders and write our next chapter based on what WE want for ourselves.
If you would like to listen to the full episode of ‘Creating Sisterhood’ where I speak to women’s empowerment coach, breath doula, and yoga instructor Maria Brito about her experience of creating her sisterhood, click here to listen on apple or on BREAKING FREE page here.